Christmas time … eek right? Tough time for many of us, missing mates, missing family, feeling a bit useless. Talking helps loads … cos i know i’m not the only one who struggles at Christmas. Sharing how you feel with a mate really does help, You need to find the right mate of course cos some people just don’t get it.
Made this film because we wanted people to reach out to one another … cos not everyone loves christmas … There is a loads of us who find it all a bit much, the stress and anxiety Im sure we all have mates who struggle this time of year … i know i pretend it’s all fine and great but deep down i wanna hide away.
I guess this film is aimed at the people who love christmas …. encourage them to spare a thought for those people like me who don’t love christmas. Cos im sure like you we all need to feel wanted sometimes. all want to know that we aren’t alone even though it feels that way,
Share the feels … message a mate if you are finding it hard to cope or maybe you have a mate whos not engaging much at the moment, message them, see how they are doing.
My name is Jo and I became a mental health ambassador as a result of lived experience of suicidal crisis.
I am particularly interested in “masking” mental health struggle. Masking can happen when people feel they need to hide their authentic self and how they really feel, in other words, they are putting on a mask, playing a part that in no way reflects how they real feel.
A mental health survivor told me recently that masking can feel like “screaming in a sleeping bag” and that the resulting exhaustion can in itself be overwhelming.
I wrote the poem This and Every Day for a conference on World Suicide Prevention Day. I wanted to honour the experience of people living with life threatening mental illnesses as well as those who have been lost to suicide.
I am passionate about multimedia poetry but don’t have the skills to produce it. But @create4mh do so we collaborated as volunteers to make a short film with the poem as a voiceover.
This and Every Day contains themes of suicide so viewer discretion is advised. If you need support in response to this short film, or at any other time please visit
If you are in SW London this is a great resource if you need extra help Link
We all have those days … trying hard but getting nowhere… I have that all the time, but i try and remind myself of the things i have done today. No matter how big or small
Remembering the stessy email i had to send, made the bed and did last nights washing up. Little things that are easily forgotten … but they all take energy and they are all important. Getting up can be a nightmare … especially if last nights washing up is there waiting for you. Taking a shower when you can’t really be arsed. cos it’s not like i’m gonna leave the house today right, but i still do it. instantly feel better … Think it’s a me thing … i do like a good hot shower.
Not really done those affirmation lists … but what i do is remind myself every evening what i’ve achieved today … feeling proud that i did achieve something, even it’s just the hoovering.
I do tell myself most nights tomorrow will be better, i will achieve more which is more about building on what i did today rather than a pressure thing. I did well today, i will do well tomorrow.
Building confidence is always tough, but there are a few things that can help. feel like a little boost? why not have a pampering day, treat yourself to a few beauty products. We have found some great value products that actually work and are affordable.
Must stress this is not sponsored or anything, just stuff we have tried that feels good to use. Release some endorphins and take a shopping trip. Most products here are around a quid. The more expensive ones last for months so it sort of works out really.
I’m kinda new to points cards … but gotta be honest it’s a bit of a no brainer … Instant savings and points for free.
Must be honest … have bought way more expensive face scrubs in my time … and some cheap ones that don’t seem to do much. But if you want a scrub that feels like it really is exfoliating then this is the one. Click here for details
The tricky one … so its about 5 quid … mad i know … dont know if Primark do a cheaper one … got a bit intimidated when i went to look. But this does work wonders, i would suggest use it for special occasions … nights out, parties that kinda thing. Bought my one (yup i use it) about 3 months ago … and it still going strong. This is defo for all sexes … covers up all those things that can make me nervous and feel a bit shit about myself. Shop around for the best offer on this …. prices seem to change daily
Tried it … felt great … cost a quid … can get 3 uses out of a packet. not sure what else to say. Great to use when you want a boost … also makes you stop for 10 mins and relax. enjoy a feet up moment with the mask on. Link here
Lidl and Aldi come great on this … both make aussie style shampoo and conditioner … feels exactly like the ‘real’ version but a fraction of the price. If you are into aussie hair care … this is an absolute win. Worth trying their other products too. Link here
Again both Aldi and Lidl make this a cheap but effective win, the Lidl on is a bit more sharp but they come in a bunch of flavours and do mostly the same thing i think. Turns your pee a weird colour so it must be working. Link here
Love a good face wipe … before bed and befor moisturising … after work when you feel tired. or just cos you want a clean fresh face. it’s all good with this … loads of amazing reviews on this one in particular. Link here
Mint and Tea Tree
I hate mornings … this does have that wake me up thing going on. Tingly and refreshing. and the price is hard to beat … even when the ‘real’ one is on offer, if you know what i mean. Aldi and Lidl make one and i honestly could not tell the difference.
Im sure im not alone when i say i forget about my hands most days … that sounds so weird but you know what i mean. To buy a product thats cheap smells nice and sits on my shelf reminding me to use it is great. Link here
This stuff is awesome … well both Aldi and Lidl versions are to be honest. I use it every day … lasts ages … looks posh, feels good and the price is amazing. Link here
Ever have those days where everything seems to go wrong? feeling like its a conspiracy against you? Trust me you aint the only one, pretty regular here i must admit.
Taking a break is the way forward … even if you are stressing over a deadline and feel you can’t manage. Getting away from it gives you a chance to get a bit more focused … taking a walk is a great first step.
Message a mate … cos we all have those days and to have a bit of a rant is good for the soul.
Its weird … so when randomly we get that good mood day … and something bad happens … we laugh it off … mutter FFS and a smile. So try and keep that in mind when things are going a bit wrong. try and remember that you dealt with this shit yesterday and it was fine.
And … well i didn’t break my Mum’s vase … there are things we sacrifice for art … but that aint one of them. And yes i did glue it back together again, it sits proudly next to my TV, as a reminder that most things can be fixed.
Tough thing to do … i know but we have been getting advice from experts to work out how we can start to feel a bit more confident
Short film about posture
Love that track … So what do we do first ?
Stand up straight Sounds sort of easy … and it is when you are in a fab mood. But when you’re feeling a bit down and things aren’t going great … it’s tricky. But it’s worth persevering cos it helps you feel instantly better … better breathing too.
Legs apart Superhero stance. don’t go too gymnastics on this bit … be more superman less Clark Kent and i don’t mean take off your glasses.
Head up Also good for breathing … it’s easy to stare at the floor somedays … try looking above people’s heads … some people call it looking at chimneys … not that there are any chimneys round are way but still.
Chest out This is my favourite … cos everytime i remember to do it … i instantly feel more confident. Combined with a big deep breath … works wonders.
Close your eyes This is about being centred (stupid phrase i know) Taking a pause and remembering who you are and that you are great. think of all those things you are good at.
Take the world by storm You can do it, save the video so you can remind yourself of the simple rules … so go kick some ass.
We have had a tough week, as you know we make positive mental health films to help and support young people who struggle; signposting other charities who can offer more help.
So far we have reached over 60,000 people, offering everyday help and advice to those who are struggling.
Last week we hit a roadblock,
Sadly … 2 of our production cameras, monitors, microphones and cases were stolen from us … We have worked so hard to get where we are, and it feels like it’s all been taken from us … We are heartbroken.
But we won’t give up
We want to get back to where we were before the theft happened. So we can continue to help people who are finding things tough and continue making engaging and supportive films, to reach those people who need our help.
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Getting back to nature is a great way to relax, listening to the sounds of wildlife as you recharge your batteries.
Not always that easy of course, so we thought we would film some scenes that might help you relax and feel a bit more calm.
Our friend the squirrel
We have added some simple breathing exercises to go along with the videos, just click on the CC button to access them. Thought it best not to have them (as much as we can help it) on screen at all times incase you just wanted to enjoy the scene.
Find a comfortable place to sit, try and relax. Go at your own pace, there are no right and wrongs here. Just some pretty footage and relaxing sounds, with some helpful breathing tips to try.
Blossom tree in the spring, 4:4:4 breathing technique, breath in and count to 4, hold that breath for 4, breathe out while counting to 4
Calming beach sounds, 4:4:4 breathing technique, breath in and count to 4, hold that breath for 2, breathe out while counting to 4
The sea crashing onto a break water 4:4:4 breathing technique, breath in and count to 4, hold that breath for 2, breathe out while counting to 4
Exams are just horrendous … nothing new there. But it’s important to remember that no matter what happens it will be ok. you can still achieve amazing things no matter what grade you get.
Looked through so many websites about this … here is a condensed version of the advice given
Self care Look after yourself, take time to do things that make you happy. We all suck at self care but it’s important to try and give yourself regular breaks to enjoy yourself unwind and get a bit of perspective
Don’t be a hero. Talk to friends or family, or both. about how you are coping. If you are stressing about exams and assessments then your friends will be too. Talk things out with a friend or someone if your family will really help.
Take a walk Sounds weird i know but fresh air and exercise is great to help you de stress. a quick walk in the park every day will work wonders. stick your headphones in and go for a wander … music, fresh air and exercise.
Eat Try to eat some nutritious food. its so hard when your stressing out cos all we really want are crips. But its important to get some vitamins which will make you feel loads better. Oh … drink water … another thing we all suck at but it is great stuff.
Breathing 4 in 6 out is a good option for deep relaxing breathing. Slowly count to 4 while breathing in, pause and let your breath out while counting to 6. Sounds weird but actually helps. Taking a pause and get yourself centered. We have put together some ASMR content here that might be helpful.
Be proud Be proud of what you have done today, no matter how much revising you did today, it all counts.
Get help if its all getting a bit much then get help, there are loads of great services around that can help you when you are struggling click here All these links are free and confidential, find one that best suits you … message, email or chat. the choice is yours
And finally You are more important than any exam. No matter what teachers tell you ….
Mother’s day can be difficult for many of us, especially for those who don’t have mum there anymore. losing a loved one is never gonna be easy but certain times of the year seem much harder than others.
This Mothers day … I have decided to celebrate, even though my mum passed a few years ago now. Its my day to remember her, my day to eat cake, bit of a self care day. Might buy myself a Bounty Bar … she loved them … i think they are gross.
I hope people around get it … understand that it’s a difficult day. Most people I know have never lost anyone that close … so it can be hard for them too.
If you feel a bit overwhelmed that’s normal … i’m sure there will be tears from me at some point. but that’s ok. I guess i’m used to it now.
If you need some great tips and advice from those warriors at the NHS here click here or pop over to our get help page to find someone to talk too.